Hello The bright side,
My daughter-in-law has made a rule: 48 hours notice For any visits to see my grandson. I thought it was overkill, but I followed it religiously because I didn’t want conflict. I would text her a couple of days in advance, wait for approval, and then visit her at the exact time she allowed.
Last month was my grandson’s third birthday. I asked three days ago if I could deliver his gift. She said no-I did not give 48 hours notice Before the party itself, just before I arrived. I was confused but didn’t argue. She left the wrapped gift on their porch with a card and drove away.
My son called that evening and said I was “Being passive aggressive” By leaving a gift instead of coming to the party. I explained to him that his wife had rejected my request, and he said that I should have “done my best to work it out with her.” That’s when something broke inside me.
I stopped visiting. I stopped asking. Six months of silence passed. Then last week, my son called in a panic: “Mom, We need you. We have a work emergency. Can you take him out for the weekend?” I was caught off guard. Part of me wanted to help because I missed my grandson so much. But part of me felt like I was being called in just because I was suddenly useful.
I told him I needed time to think about it and hung up. Now he’s calling repeatedly, and my DIL has actually texted me – for the first time in months – saying they “really need family now.” I don’t know what to do. Did you make things worse by backing down? Should I help them after being excluded for half a year? How do I protect myself while I am still in my grandson’s life?
please help,
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